25 going on 15…

My 26th birthday is coming up – don’t worry, I’m not going to tell you to check out my care package page or anything :) – but I’m feeling more like its my 15th birthday. In someways it is. I have a new job, I’m learning how to drive a car, learning how to cook, learning how to make friends in new social situations – generally learning to live as an adult again.
Please don’t think I’m having a pity party here, these situations provide a lot of laughter that help brighten my day. It’s taken some time but I’m gradually learning where to get certain things and which stores carry what. So far the biggest learning curve has been my truck. I got a great deal on a Toyota Hilux, a great bush vehicle. I’m already planning trans-African journeys and adventures to the unknown. But before I can do that I need to learn how to drive a manual. I mean, I know how to in theory but I’ve only done it a few times and am not ready to hit the roads quite yet.
I’m ready to run, but first I’ve got to put my time in walking.
We’ve got a big weekend ahead of us here in Zambia. We are hosting our first conference for our new group of ACTION Pastors College students. We will work closely and intimately with these 15 pastors over the next 3 years. The pastors and their wives will spend the Saturday at Ciyanjano. I’m going to start a project documenting their lives during their journey through our program so stay tuned.
Please pray for this weekend. Pray that everything works and goes well. And most importantly that relationships between AZ and the pastors and their wives begin to form and solidify.
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Photo Friday

I thought we’d celebrate and end the week of homestay blogs with another installment of Photo Friday. I took these out at Ciyanjano during my teammate’s housewarming party. Eat your heart out of sun flare fans. I can’t wait to move out there.

Fields of Ciyanjano

Sunset in the Fields

Sunset at Ciyanjano

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The Good, The Uncomfortable, & The Funny

While I could blog about every detail and/or thought regarding my homestay experience, I want to continue to move forward. So today will be the summary of my homestay. Overall, it was an amazing time of encountering new people, a new culture, having my faith tested in ways unlike before, and simply building relationships with Zambians.
I really can’t separate my time into just one category, they were all equal parts good, uncomfortable, and funny.
Going into this I knew my “comfort zone” was going to be obliterated but I didn’t know how so. I thought I would have a hard time dealing with the poverty. I have a hard time dealing with such injustice; it really weighs heavily on my soul.
But that wasn’t the hardest part. The most difficult thing I had to deal with was not having privacy or personal boundaries- I was constantly surrounded and accompanied by someone, not knowing exactly what was going on all the time, and always being catered to, being the center of attention – it almost felt like I was the star in a travelling circus act.
I didn’t realize just how valuable having privacy is to me. I only had a few moments to myself to collect my thoughts, to read the Bible, and to have down time. If you’ve ever traveled within the continent of Africa, you know that physical boundaries are a joke. There’s no such thing. What was uncomfortable was not having personal boundaries respected like I’m used to. For example, when we were eating, since I’m the honored guest I was given first priority and almost expected to take the biggest and best portions. Nshima is the most filling thing I’ve ever had and only one lump usually fills me up – children can eat one lump in their sleep – so when I said “I’m full” it wasn’t because the food was bad, it was because I was full. But my host didn’t see it that way and wanted me, heck even forced me, to have more. After a while that gets hard.
The other uncomfortable part was always being the center of attention. My homestay took me to a bunch of churches, friends houses, and even a hospital where I was supposed to share something. But the catch was he’d never tell me what we were doing, who I’d be speaking to, or what I should say. We’d show up, start the program, and turn to me and ask “do you have something to say?” What was I supposed to say to 50 plus kids, no? So I brushed off what I learned in DARE and put something together on the spot. Actually, I thought I did a pretty good job using Philippians 1:6.
I got the honor of preaching twice. Once in the village to a couple hundred people who traveled from all over the area to hear me. Since I had no frame of reference for how to preach, or how to be culturally relevant, or how to gauge their reactions I’ll have to wait until heaven to find out how it went.
The second time preaching was at Mark’s church the last Sunday I was there. Due to the fact my sermon repertoire is only one sermon deep I had to make up new material. On Saturday night, I asked God to help me share with them the lessons I’ve learned from them. I started off saying that because I was only wearing slacks and a polo I could only teach the adult Sunday school class but since I got a suit salaula shopping – shopping for second hand clothes on the streets – I could preach. They cheered and laughed.
Then I started preaching. I preached to them what I’m teaching you now. I preached on a few things I learned from them that will stick with me forever. I told them I admired their sense of community and how they are the example I will try to live by. I told them how humbled I am by their faith and joy in trials and suffering. I got a big response from this, even a few “amens” and some cheers. I added just how awesome it is to worship with people who sing, dance, and pray like they actually depend on God’s sovereignty for everything.
I wound up preaching for 45 minutes. Even though it was something completely new and so far out of my league I really enjoyed it. Unless God Himself writes “Tyler, you should become a pastor!” in flaming words on my wall I don’t foresee myself becoming a pastor of a church but I really enjoyed teaching.
It was an amazing experience. Would I do it again? Yes. Though maybe not for two weeks next time. :)
I know I sound like a broken record but I don’t care. I am eternally grateful to those who prayed for me during my homestay. I really could feel God extend His mercy to me. It was incredible. Thank you very much.

I wondered if this is what Jesus felt like when he taught under a grass shelter.

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Homestay Recap Pt. 3: The Chicken

One of the things I’ve been looking forward to doing in Zambia is living sustainably; eating food I’ve raised and grown with my own hands. I believe we as Christians are called to be good stewards of creation. Yes, “local” and “organic” back in the States usually means you’re paying a premium but here it’s the default. You can’t get more locally sourced than your own backyard.
One of the things I’ll be looking into, for both a possible income generation venture and personal endeavor, is raising chickens. When I say living sustainably, I do include butchering – aka killing and processing – the chicken.
And in order to do this you have to go to the experts. In my case it was my homestay mother, Mrs. Mwale, and her adopted son. We went out in the afternoon to buy the chicken; this is the one we got. For some reason, I expected us to carry it or put it in a cage or something but no, we put it in our grocery bag, along with the celery, lettuce, and onions. I guess the fact it’s still breathing is just semantics, it is food after all.

For the record, the kid in the blue shirt delivered the coup de grace on this one.

When it was time to kill it, I followed the kid in the blue shirt out back. He carried the chicken by its wings in one hand and a knife in the other. As I pinned the chicken’s legs and wings down with my leg I had a hard time understanding what the kid was trying to say so his instructions were lost in translation. I tried cutting the throat but was aiming too low, and the knife was a bit dull. After much struggling, from both the chicken and myself, the kid took the knife from my hand and swiftly slit the chicken’s throat.
I felt ashamed, not because I killed something, but because I failed to do it. This six year old kid had to do it. In my defense, I didn’t know where to cut. I wasn’t scared but I’m sure the kid was scoffing at my complete inability to perform such a primal skill.
I learned an important lesson. There are skills, and then there are skills. Throughout human history these are the skills you want at the end of the day. How many words per minute you can type or what your Klout score is – if you know your Klout score go out and buy a live chicken right now, kill it, then cook and eat it in order to redeem yourself as a functional human being – don’t mean much if you can’t eat.
Then we scalded and plucked it.

 

Plucked.

And cooked it.

Fried Chicken

Obviously I didn’t take photos of gutting it since my hands were covered in guts but I got the hang of it. I’m looking forward to raising more chickens. Can’t get more organic than this…
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Homestay Recap Pt. 2: Food

The one question I’ve been consistently getting is, what did you eat during your homestay? Well the answer is simple: nshima. Nshima for breakfast, nshima for lunch, nshima for dinner. It is the staple of Zambia due to its ability to fill your stomach. Zambians will include side dishes of a vegetable (cabbage, okra, lettuce, pumpkin leaves, spinach) and a protein (meat, fish, chicken, goat).

Nshima, cabbage, mieze meat [ground beef

I’m not sure how nutritious it is, but it’s good. And most of all my stomach handles it quite well. My biggest concern was stomach issues…and its consequences. But God was faithful and I suffered no ill effects.
Nshima is cheap. It’s made from grounded corn powder. One of the reasons we invested in a hammermill as our first income generation venture is because everyone needs their corn grounded into mielie meal, a powder substance.
Girls begin learning to cook nshima at age 9 and by the time they are old enough to marry it is a qualification for marriage. It’s a good thing they start so young because there is no universal recipe, cooking nshima is an art form. You begin with boiling water and then add your mielie into a paste. Return to a boil and then add more mielie. And then stir.

Boiling Nshima

Some Zambians like their nshima a bit softer like oatmeal while others prefer it with a harder consistency, almost like playdough. To make it thicker just keep adding more mielie while stirring.
The more you add and stir the thicker and harder it gets to stir. These woman have iron grips from years of stirring nshima pots. I tried stirring the above pot but had a hard time. My host family laughed at me.

Stirring the Pot

One of the funniest moments of my homestay was explaining to my hosts that Americans don’t eat nshima. It was unimaginable to them that people would eat something else besides nshima.
Tune in for what it was like to kill a chicken and more tomorrow.
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Homestay Recap Pt. 1

Since I got back from my homestay I’ve been thoroughly enjoying warm showers, a bed to myself, and a self-determined schedule. But mostly I’ve been just thinking “did I just do that?” I’m still processing everything I felt and experienced during my three week homestay. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to adequately express everything as it will probably take months for me to figure out everything.
I spent the first week with a family who run a funeral parlor. As you might imagine business is good. They provide body care, legal and logistical services for the grieving family. I spent three days helping to set up tents and chairs for the funeral attendees. I also got to attend a funeral. I also got time to talk with the owner about business in Zambia. I learned a bit about management, how culture affects the workplace, and just how thankful I am for OSHA.
The week I spent in the funeral business was a complete shock to my worldview. It was a real eye-opener to just how different Zambia is from the US.
Then after a day’s rest I headed to Chaisa compound. Compounds, our name for a ghetto, townships, favelas, or slums, depending on where you live in the world, are teeming with humanity. Chaos abounds, houses are built randomly,  people are cooking, bathing, and working outdoors, and of course children are everywhere. I immediately saw how and why community plays such an important, and sometimes negative, role in the culture here.
I spent a week in Chaisa preaching, teaching, and following my host family went shopping, then took a bus to a small village in Eastern province for two days. The village was exactly what you think it would be, a remote rural community living off the land at a subsistence level. From what I gathered five churches, about two hundred came to hear me speak. They stayed up all night singing and praying. It was an amazing and well needed break from Chaisa.

Chaisa Compound. Lusaka, Zambia.

Then I headed back to Chaisa for another week. I preached in church and had an amazing response from the attendees. I then spent a few days checking out the pastor’s business and talking to many people in the compounds.
The experience is one I’ll never forget. I’ll always remember the generosity and hospitality shown to me by almost everyone I encountered. Most of all I’ll remember God’s faithfulness. I was anxious about many things as I began but God protected and provided for everything. I’m extremely grateful for everyone’s prayers, I felt them all.

Getting Water. Mandevu Village

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Homestay Photos

I originally didn’t plan on bringing my camera during my homestay. I wanted to bond with Zambians face to face, not behind a lens. But, luckily for you, the host family told me to bring it. I took photos with the intent of putting together a presentation for ACTION Zambia as well as documenting life in the compounds. Enjoy!
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Homestay – Quick Recap

I’m back! After 3 weeks of living with two different Zambian families I am back and letting the dust settle. I’m still processes what just happened, especially these last 2 weeks living in the compounds with a pastor and his family. I have enough content to blog for a month but here are my immediate reactions and thoughts.

The Mwales (left to right: Robert, Irene, Joshua, Mark, Elliem)

It was an intensely challenging, but extremely rewarding experience. It is something I will never forget. God used and stretched me in new ways. I had the chance to preach/teach multiple times to various audiences. I had numerous dialogues with different Zambians from all walks of life that gave me an insight into their lives. I hope that whatever I gleaned, even if it is only the tip of the cultural iceberg, will help me with future work.
The trials were completely different than what I expected. My fears going into it was if I could handle the daily grind living among an impoverished community. I thought it would get to me, but it didn’t. The challenges were much more personal and intimate. In the end I did what I always do, throw myself at God’s feet begging for mercy.

Pastor Banda. Mandevu Village.

I was humbled by the extreme generosity, hospitality, and community exhibited to me. All the stress of raising support, making awkward phone calls, and all the hours spent in prayer made were worth it for just these two weeks. The thing that was reinforced time and time again was just how blessed and fortunate I am to have lived and live the life God has for me.
The biggest takeaway was just how faithful God is. Period. The first few days were extremely tough but God provided and protected me and I really connected with the family and the community. I hope my time living among them will go a long way to helping me be accepted by Zambians and show that I am here to serve them.

Mandevu Village. Nyimba, Zambia.

Thank you so much for your prayers. I will always be grateful for the experience God gave me.
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One Month!

One month ago today I landed in Lusaka. This month has been filled with adventure, trials, ups and down, and lots of good lessons. God has proven faithful as always and made this month one I will always remember.
I don’t know where exactly I am at this moment or what I’m doing to mark the occasion. I wrote this blog two weeks ago before I left for my homestay. So, I could be in the compounds of Lusaka, or in a village in Eastern Zambia.
At this point I have a few more days left with my host family. By now, what once was my comfort zone has been brutally shattered and a new one is being established. The way I view myself, Zambians, and the world has changed. My feelings about living here for at least another 17 months may or may not have changed. My emotional condition and stress levels are and have been at the breaking point for almost two months and I’m not sure where I’m at.
Since I’m writing this on April 19th and publishing it today I’m not sure how the above will be valid or true. But one thing is for certain. God is still faithful. I have trusted Him these past two weeks in ways I haven’t in years – or maybe ever in my lifetime.  I can say on April 19th with complete confidence that will have He carried me in His arms through these turbulent times and brought me to this point. Where that is, I am not sure although I know it’s right where He wants me.
I am grateful for the love and support of those who have prayed, sent an word of encouragement, and donated. Thank you. This past month has truly been a special time for me.
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Gold Medal

One of my favorite games to play is “Who Doesn’t Belong Here” also known as “Who Feels Socially Uncomfortable,” and “Who Sticks Out Like A Sore Thumb.”
I really like this game because I always win. Hands down, no replay needed, a 100&% guaranteed victory. Whether its on a mini-bus, riding my bike, in a store, I win. But today I won the gold medal.
I went to a funeral.
I essentially crashed it. I was the only white person there in a church filled with mourners. Let me explain, my host family operates a funeral service business. They provide affordable logistical services for grieving families. Yesterday I helped set up for a funeral but left shortly before it began but today I attended one.
Of course my homestay asked the family’s permission but she didn’t tell the 200+ people in attendance. Imagine what it would be like if during your mother’s funeral an alien starts walking down the aisle and takes a seat towards the front. I can honestly say it was one of the most uncomfortable experiences of my life.
And to make it even worse there was a photo/videographer. I’m trying not to imagine the family’s reaction as they go through the photos and video of their beloved’s funeral and right there in the crowed is a pasty-white Mzungu with red hair. I’m really hoping this guy knows how to edit.
Part of the homestay is to learn about the culture. I’m not sure what I learned about Zambian culture today other than randomly showing up at funerals is socially awkward for all parties involved. I’m not sure if this one guy was glaring or trying to figure out what the heck I was doing there, probably both.
I did realize just how seriously death is taken here. When someone dies, everyone who knows them, even if only in passing, goes to the funeral. They honor them by grieving to a degree I have never witnessed before. Maybe it is because death visits so frequently with such an unrelenting, voracious aggression that the only way to process is to mourn with a similar zeal.
What really stuck with me throughout the day is knowing that death will become an ever present, unwelcome companion over the next two years as the Zambians I know will have loved ones, or maybe even themselves die. There are more funerals to come.
It really drives home what, ultimately, my purpose for being here is, to bring the joy of a promised eternal life to those who do not have it.
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